I've never asked a church for help before. We've always suffered in silence. But, I took a step out in faith to ask for help. To explain – in part – I explained our financial situation. Our our conditioner finally died after 33 years. While replacing the coil the trusted and recommended by my boss HVAC guy inspected my furnace and found several cracks in the heat exchanger. We were at risk of carbon monoxide poisoning all last winter if not more but for the clean burning flame directing the gases efficiently up the flu. If our air conditioner hadn't died forcing a replacement (and furnace inspection) we might have died this winter. The guy at church proceeded to second guess how much I'm spending on HVAC and now furnace. I'm mortified. This barely knows one scintillating of my financial circumstances. What's next? Are they going to want examine my accounts and pressure me to make other financial decisions before the agree to help? How humiliating? And now I feel very uncomfortable at this church.