I am talking to someone who wasnt raised in a church but was told by his mom that you dont need a church to have a relationship with God. In the couple months we been going out and spending time together its gotten confusing in all sorts of ways. when i met him he cursed alot, didnt go to any church not even watch online and since we been talking hes been watching the lives and even came to church with me last week. he said hes open to it and ive given him 2 bibles diff versions and hes been reading it. he says he prays on his own at home and i does pray over the food when we go out and eat. he said he has been listening to some christian music but i know he still has a certain type of playlist. but what i prayed for was someone to study the bible with, pray together and him pray over me too, serve in a church together and even outside the church. worship together . he does say God should be the center of everything and would like to take this slow and do things the right way. he respects the no sleeping together before marriage also but occasionally does things to temp me but with no intentions for it to be anything else always ends up saying lets just not be alone or keep door open. i probably shouldnt even be in his home when no one is there but since i have kids and currently in my moms house its hard to spend time to get to know him so i do when i get a chance and its easier to just go over his house for a bit than just going out. hes cursing way less to almost barely but i cant help feeling im carrying him through this journey. i see potential but its almost like a project im waiting to see how it turns out and i dont want to waste my time with someone who does treat me so well but isnt where i hoped he would already b with God when meeting at first. i feel like im being inpatient and also feel like i cant hear God. i been asking to take away distractions and all that doesnt belong and that if he was sent by God for me in a romantic way to let it be known and hes done nothing but stuck around. and i keep seeing glimpes of what could be for example i talked about how i felt and said Adam wasnt asking for a wife God just saw what he needed and while he was focused on what he was supposed to do thats when God provided so that started up a conversation and we both read the bible "bible study". i also prayed for someone financilally fit who could proved because in my last marriage i was the provider yet he got hurt on a job so currently isnt working until he goes through a surgery he needs but is getting paid just isnt a career . he also smokes week for pain and said his doctor recommended it but thats something i said i dont want to be with so as i see good and potential , i also see things that make me wonder if hes the one. i need clarity and dont like the feeling of being with someone who isnt spiritually where i want. i feel im being judgemental and i dont want to be. i dont want to ask for patience because i know how that goes but i would like to know how to wait and what my purpose in all this is and in general because God never revealed what i was assigned to do in this world. what can i be doing in the meantime. whats my purpose whats my calling and i dont want to wait for a man to feel the feeling of accomplishment or content. he said eventually would like to get baptized too but thats because i asked. i also want to make sure he isnt doing certain things for me because i want him to have his own relationship with God himself . i want him to be the leader and i feel like its me when it comes to following God. but when it comes to leading me as a potential husband hes doing great. i feel im inpatient and overthinking with no purpose or focus on anything else but if hes the one. i need God to tell me what to do. i read my bible, i pray and i still havnt hear what God wants me to be doing and if this man is of him